Hi, I’m a pastor’s wife. 

A downfall of being a pastor’s wife…I sit alone.  Well, I worship alone. One of my favorite things is standing next to my hubby in worship. Mostly because he has an amazing voice and I like listening to him sing.  But my hubby is a Worship Pastor. I can’t tell you how many times people look at the poor girl sitting by herself and give me that “you poor thing look”.  Especially when they see the wedding ring.  Then they really feel sorry for me because they think I have a dead beat husband who is at home watching football instead of being at church with his wife. And add in the pregnant belly…it’s even more entertaining for me!

A pastor’s wife that I follow, recently wrote a blog about this topic.  She says that she sits on the front row b/c that is where she is most supportive of her husband.  This is not the case for me though.  Honestly, I think my hubs is way to sexy and if I sit that close, I’m more engaged in him during Worship than my #1 love.

Because, my hubby is my #2 and always will be. 

I hide in the back, in the dark.  Another reason I do this, is for my husband’s sake.  He gets distracted very easily.  I fear that if I’m right in front of him I will be a distraction to him when his purpose is to lead people to the feet of Christ…not to check out his wife on the front row.  That’s just why I do it.

Pastor’s wives: what is your preference on where you sit if your hubby is an “on stage guy”?

Church Attenders: what is your honest view of pastor’s wives and how we should encourage our husbands? Seriously…I’m curious!

I’m a worship pastor’s wife. 

Worship is one of my favorite things.  I remember so clearly the first time I saw my husband lead worship in the tiny little Lifechurch.tv offices in Stillwater where we held youth at the time.  I was blown away.  His passion.  His joy.  WOW.  Why don’t all Worship Leaders have THAT? At the time I didn’t know this boy, but I was moved by him.  I knew he was something special.  I didn’t know he was going to end up being the most special thing in the world to me.

Being a worship pastor’s wife, I’ve become skeptical of other worship leaders.  The worship leader is vital to the vibe of the whole worship experience. 

There are some things that bug me about worship leaders.  There are some things that impress me. 

Here are some major things I see in Worship Leaders:

1.  Worship leaders who look bored, bore me. 

2.  Appearance is important.  My husband usually checks with me before he leaves the house on Sunday mornings.  I know he may not be the most “fashion savvy”, but that’s not what I mean.  If you look like you haven’t combed your hair in months, or your jeans are tighter than the pants Olivia Newton John wore in Grease…that’s just bad. 

3.  Worship Leaders who don’t know their stuff bug.  How difficult is it to lead others when you’re lost yourself?

4. Using “church words” bugs me.  This is a huge deal to my hubs and me…but that’s a totally different blog.  Why use words like “sanctification and transgressions” when you have no idea what they mean yourself?

5. I love it when a worship leader is themself on stage.  I love to see passion, heart, and the hard work they put into bringing us to the feet of Jesus. 

What are some things you like or dislike about Worship?

What are some great things you’ve seen in Worship Leaders?

I’ll even go this far…who is the BEST worship leader you’ve seen?? (Don’t worry, you won’t hurt my feelings if you don’t have the same favorite as me!)

Sometimes it’s difficult to find good girlfriends as a pastors wife.  I mean real, down-to-earth girls who get you, and understand you.  Sometimes you wonder if people just want to be your friend to get in the “know” of what’s going on at the church, or they don’t want to be your friend because you’re so “holy”.  Oh goodness, I’m far from holy! I think the closest I get are the holes in my jeans.  It’s like we have a plague or something sometimes!

I’m so thankful for my friend Wendy.  She has been one of the greatest mentors and friends to me.  I’m thankful for her experience in the ministry as a Pastor’s Wife and how I know I can always be transparent with her and she completely gets me and understands.  I’m still learning this Pastor’s Wife role.  Not always the easiest, especially in our first church change and starting all over.

If you’re a pastor’s wife or work in the ministry, do you ever struggle with this?

If you aren’t, is it difficult for you to be friends with Pastors Wives? Come on, be honest!!

First off…thanks for making it this far to visit my blog! I’m touched. I’m excited to get into the crazy world of blogging.  I read blogs all the time and always wish I had interesting stuff to write about like other people do! I’ll give it a shot anyway

PLAN FOR THIS BLOG:

To inspire.  To share.  To be me.

I will mostly talk on how my life is constantly changed and influenced by being a pastor’s wife.  I will give thoughts on marriage and how to thrive in it! I will give some personal thoughts on ministry and share what’s going on in OUR life!

But don’t stop reading if you don’t fit that niche…I might throw a curve ball every once and a while to keep you all on your feet!

More to come….