taking time for the game of chase

I would say over the last year I have transitioned into a work at home mom. As my blog has continued to grow over the years (hey, thanks guys for putting up with me!), and I now co-run Thrive and am a part of The Influence Events Team and am about to launch my shop....well I do a lot. So, I spend quite a bit of my time working and writing. I always thought I would be a working mom. My mom was, and I couldn't wait to have a career. But after working many years as an event planner and learning that the hours were a bit ridiculous if I ever wanted to see my kids, I decided to stay home.

Oh, and random and off topic but we've had some GORGEOUS weather this week. Way to go, January. 

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Anyway, I've been able to take a day or two a week to just get away and work. It's wonderful and hard at the same time. It's also hard for me to take off my mommy hat for a few hours. I tend to be a control freak and have trouble being away at all. BUT I get time by myself, to sit, sip sweet tea and write, design, dream and plan. Perfect way to recharge my batteries.

And the best part for me?Getting to come home to my babies. 

When I walk in the door and they go crazy (you know, the good crazy), I understand how daddy feels every day when he comes home from work. I feel excitement to be a mom again. I can't wait to wrestle, tickle and play chase. When I spend every waking moment at home with the kids, I find myself turning into a robot. I go through the motions of motherhood without really stopping to enjoy it.

Last night I took the time for a game of chase.Although I'm insanely out of shape, chasing my hilarious girls around the house is worth every breath sucking moment. I need that time away to remember how great I have it. How blessed I am by these tiny people that I have the amazing joy of raising.

What can you do to remind yourself to play chase? What helps you remember how much you love being a mom?

we are on the same team

I've never been much of a controversial blogger. I'm not super on one side of the fence about any issue, because I know that every child is different. I don't believe there is ever a specific way to do something that will work across the board. That's why you won't really see me blogging much about the "controversial topics" (sleep, vaccinating, development, etc.) BUT there are a few things as a mom I feel very strongly about. A mom being fully supported in her decisions is something I will never change my stance on. 

I may not always agree with someone's decision to do something a certain way, but I'm human. What I can guarantee you is that I will support you and tell you that you are doing a great job no matter what your decision is. If you want my opinion, you'll ask for it.

A few weeks ago I wrote a breastfeeding post. That's one of those issues I feel SUPER strongly about. Not about it being something you should or shouldn't do it, but that you should feel SUPPORTED in it.

Why? 

Because we are on the same team. Us moms.

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There's no march madness tournament bracket. There's no super bowl.  There's no competition.  PERIOD. NONE.

We simply NEED one another. There's something about being a mom that only a mom understands. To someone that doesn't have children, you can sound ungrateful, selfish or *ahem* a bit ridiculous. To another mom, she gets you. 

Last week, I sat with two of my best friends and we were bragging about how out of control our homes are, how our children run amuck and life is absolutely NUTS 99.999% of the time. We just get each other. We know the struggles, the doubts, the frustrations but also the JOY that comes with the territory.

Let's put away the tournament brackets and put the same jersey on. Let's support one another no matter how we parent. Let's embrace that every child is different and that we can love and support our sisters through their own journey without competing or judging.

Who's with me?

 

why breast is not always best.

You've all heard it: "Breast is best!". I have to disagree with that statement.Yes, breastMILK may be the best nutrient for your baby. That I can agree on, but I have to say no, breast is NOT ALWAYS best.

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I'll pause for a moment while you block me, report me to the la leche league and throw eggs at my house.

Ready to hear why? I sure hope so, because I've been through 9 months of an inner battle with myself on whether or not I made the right decision. I had SO many issues with breastfeeding my first two babies, so when I got pregnant with my third, and knew that I would have 3 UNDER 3, I had to make the tough choice. Would I even try to breastfeed and fight through the mastitis? Even though I'd tried everything, I still got it every few weeks. My babies struggled to grow on my milk, and a million other issues. Could I risk that, yet again? 

So I made that hard decision: I didn't breastfeed my third baby. I didn't even TRY. *gasp* Honestly, I wanted nothing more than to be able to breastfeed her. I cried my eyes out when they brought her to me for the first time for her to eat and I had to stand firm in my choice to not nurse. Actually, my husband had to stand firm for me and feed her a bottle because I was an emotional mess and couldn't do it.

Now that she is 9 months old, I'm happy to tell you that it was one of the best decisions I made as a mom. It wasn't a decision I made selfishly. Yes, I have struggled with guilt. But it was the absolute best choice for my family.

Let's chat about some of those rumors we hear about breastfeeding, shall we? Those things you hear will happen when you don't breastfeed?

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You won't have a connection with your baby if you don't breastfeed. I think this is probably the most common thing you hear about not breastfeeding. I've even had moms tell me they don't feel a connection with their baby because they aren't breastfeeding. WHY? Maybe it's just because I had a horrible breastfeeding experience, but connecting with my child is never something I've had an issue with, and breastfeeding actually made it harder for me to bond because it was so difficult. I don't think bonding has anything to do with the way they are fed.

Your baby won't be healthy or able to fight off illness without breastmilk. I have three very healthy children. They rarely get sick and they each only had breastmilk for a few months. Formula is made so well now to help protect our babies and build antibodies just like God created our milk to do! I'm thankful for that!

Only the best moms breastfeed. That's an absolute LIE. The fact of how good a mother is has nothing to do with how her baby eats. If her baby is eaten and well cared for, then she's a great mother. End of story. For me personally, choosing NOT to breasted made me a better mom for my kids!

You won't lose any weight if you don't breastfeed. Believe it or not, breastfeeding is not the only way to lose weight. Many women will probably tell you they didn't even lose their baby weight until they were done breastfeeding! Either way, weight should be your last concern at this point!!

It's easier to nurse because you don't have bottles and formula to haul around. Maybe it's because my breastfeeding experience was so bad, but I feel the opposite! I don't have to stop what I'm doing to feed, I don't have to select my outfit based on if it's breastfeeding accessible. I think each has it's pros and cons! But I definitely don't think that bottle feeding is that much more difficult!

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Although I have struggled with it, I do not regret my decision. I have an amazing bond with my baby girl. She actually prefers for me to feed her, and wants to be held a certain way by me. She bonded with me because I am her mother, not because of how her food got into her body! 

holiday gift guide: the kid guide

Welcome to the 2013 Holiday Gift Guide!

I hope you are inspired by some amazing gifts I've put together to share with you. I will be highlighting many different items in my two gift guides that I felt like would be the best for YOU! Day 1 will feature the Mom Guide and Day 2 will feature the Kid Guide.

Enjoy and share with your friends and family!

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Personalized Name Shoes from Parker & Posie Use the code GIFT GUIDE for 15% off 11/6/13 ONLY!

Moxie Mandie Baby Quilt Use MERRY25 for 25% off of any stroller blanket!

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Personalized Candy Cane Shirt from Simply Made with Love

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iTunes Gift Card    |    umba instagram toy camera    |    Little Bit Funky HoHo World Vision: Goat & 2 Chickens to be provided to a family in need on their behalf

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Headphones    |    Skip Hop Backpack    |    Zoo Membership (or anything local)    |    Veggie Tales: Merry Larry

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Personalized Piggie Bank    |    Pottery Barn Wooden Letters     |    Leap Frog Ultra    |    Doctors Kit

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Doll stroller    |     Little People Princess Castle    |     Jewelry Box She Does Justice Bows - Use the code MOMDIGGITY for 20% off your order

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Train table    |     Custom superhero cape    |    Legos    |    Trendy ties for little guys from Dressed to Thrill

holiday gift guide: the mom guide

Welcome to the 2013 Holiday Gift Guide!

I hope you are inspired by some amazing gifts I've put together to share with you. I will be highlighting many different items in my two gift guides that I felt like would be the best for YOU! There will be ideas for pretty much every kind of mom and child on your list. Day 1 will feature the Mom Guide and Day 2 will feature the Kid Guide.

Look for text in red for great discount codes and a giveaway at the bottom of the post!!

Enjoy and share with your friends and family!

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Warby Parker Glasses  |   Patterned Leggings   |   Polaroid instant camera   |   Ceramic Wall Planters

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iPhone lenses {olloclip}   |   FitBit One Sleep & Activity Tracker   |   iPhone photo cube printer   |     Phone tripod

foodiemom

"peas and thank you" cookbook   |   Personalized kitchen towels from Simply Made with Love Kitchen Aid Mixer   |   Pampered Chef Start the Party Bundle

***If you order from The Pampered Chef and mention this gift guide in your order, you will receive a FREE COOKBOOK with your order!!!*** 

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Each of these organizations employs, promotes and creates jobs and hope for those in need. Knowing your purchase does so much more will touch the heart of the compassionate mom who wants to change lives!

umba   |   fashionABLE   |   Better Life Bags Beautiful & Beloved - Placemat & Coaster Set and Infinity Necklace

Get to know these wonderful organizations and all they are doing to impact men and women around the world!

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blow out bar gift certificate (my favorite local-OKC)   |  gift card to Sephora   |   Victoria Secret Flannel PJs Rodon + Fields REDEFINE Multi-Function Eye Cream - Perfect for those tired mommy eyes!!

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Caroline G Shop Necklace - Use the code MOMDIGGITY for 50% off your order - Ends 11/12 

  Old Navy Rockstar Skinnies   |   Lace up Combat Boots Boots (Steve Madden) Hand Stamped Lovely Little Whimsy Necklace

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Chew beads   |    Blanqi Postpartum & Nursing Tank   |   Ergo Baby Carrier   |   Petunia Pickle Bottom Diaper bag

 

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NS Pottery Mug  Use the code MOMDIGGITY for 10% off - Ends 12/15  Jessica N Designs Spoon   |   Family Drawing from My Little Buffalo Use code DIGGITY10 for 10% off  Melody Joy Designs Mama's Nest Ring

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