Mom's Night Out: Movie Recap

This is my story. I don't know how many times I've believed the lie "I'm a failure, I'm not good enough". I can't believe a movie affirmed ME and told MY story. My wild and crazy life with three toddlers. My house that is ALWAYS a disaster area. How I'm typically a hot mess and never look put together.

I was choking on my popcorn I was laughing so hard. This movie is RAW and REAL. I was a little creeped out feeling like they must have had secret cameras placed in my home somehow because no other house is as crazy as mine, right? Wrong. We all are surrounded by this beautiful, crazy chaos each and every day. "Masterpieces" in finger-paints on the walls, salmonella literally dripping from the countertops and tiny toddlers using the toilet as their personal bathing pool.

It's about resisting to believe that lie that you're not good enough. It's about knowing what an important job motherhood is. It's ok to be a mess, a beautiful mess.  When you are deeply rooted in Christ, you are a new creation. You no longer carry the titles of failure and not-enough.

Gather your girlfriends, and get to this film. You will laugh, cry and be SO encouraged!

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At the end of the film, Allison gives this message:

"I am a mess. But I'm a beautiful mess. I'm His masterpiece and that's enough"

I couldn't have said it better myself.

**This post has been sponsored by Papa Murphy's and MomSelect**

breathing room

I've been a bit on the busy side lately. When I've sat down to try to even write a blog post, I feel like I'm suffocating and can't seem to catch my breath. I've been so swamped with planning for the Thrive Retreat that I haven't had much time to focus on anything else. My husband and kids included. Doesn't it seem ironic that I'm spending so much time helping women Thrive when I'm struggling to do the same myself? What I never really thought about or expected when I started a ministry for moms was that I would do so much growing myself. I'm stretched daily to learn how to truly thrive in motherhood, in being a wife and a friend. I struggle with being an overachiever (hello, type a+) and so I want to have my hands in everything. It's hard for me to step back and take a break.

Over the past year as I've transitioned from being a stay at home mom that blogs, to being a work at home mom with multiple jobs. I'm learning what that looks like. I do battle a bit with the "mommy guilt" that I'm not focusing 100% of my attention on my kids at all times during the day, but also realizing it's more about the intentional time I do have with my family.

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I'm learning how to find some breathing room in my days and be super intentional about the precious time I have with my husband and my babies. It's not about spending every waking moment with them, but about making great moments when I have them.

How do you make intentional time with your family and still find some breathing room in the craziness of life? 

how to shower less (and still look fabulous!)

I will never claim to be the expert on anything. Not parenting, marriage, blogging, anything. BUT this is one thing I feel like I almost have expert status on because I've just about perfected it. Faking that I'm clean. You laugh, but I'm sooooo serious. When I was a brand new mom with a crazy colicy baby, I wondered if I would ever shower again. Those first three months of motherhood were a nightmare. Then it got super fun, and I got super pregnant. Again and again. Showering regularly became a thing of the past, and faking it was the new norm. Getting a few spare minutes to myself during the week is rare, and honestly I don't like to spend that blow drying my hair for 20 minutes. So I set out to find some ways to be clean without really being clean. This is basically the closest I get to being the hippie I wish I was.

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1. Headbands. A cute headband can make you look super put-together, but also cover up some greasy hair that you don't want to fix!

2. Dry shampoo. When I finally took my hair dressers advice and stopped washing my hair everyday, it made a huge difference for my hair. Then I found dry shampoo and it changed my life. This is the dry shampoo I use, but also a little baby powder can do the trick too! Just find what you love and works for you!

3. Baby wipe those pits and apply new deodorant. Off with the old, on with the new!

4. Baby wipes everywhere. (yup, those things work wonders...everywhere...)

5. Minimal make up. You don't have to get all fancied up just to feel "clean". A clean face and some minimal make up can really make a huge difference. Find a power or bronzer you love, throw on some lip gloss and mascara and you will feel good as new! And a BRIGHT lip is my secret weapon!

6. Accessorize. There's something about putting on some clean clothes and a cute necklace, scarf, etc that can change the way you look and feel!

7. Curls. Adding some curls to your hair can make you feel so pretty and can really help you look put together. If you have long hair like me, I just throw my hair in a super high ponytail and add some super quick curls to the ends.

8.  Cute Clothes. It's amazing how taking off the sweat pants and putting on a cute outfit can totally transform you! I will have not taken the time to shower or wash my hair for days, but I get dressed and people will comment on how great I look.

9. Put your big girl panties on. Ok, really just put clean ones on. Change ALL of your clothes every day with a quick wipe down and you'll be like brand spanking new!

10. Embrace the crunchy. There are oils and natural deodorants that can help decrease body odors! Do some research and find some new things you'd like to try! If you want to get super crunchy, try making your own deodorant!

This is one of those super vulnerable, scary posts where I'm sharing my deep dark secrets. I typically only shower 1-2 times a week and wash my hair once a week. But when I do, I make it worth it! I sure enjoy an amazing giant bubble bath, or a long VERY hot shower. I turn on music, light candles, and use yummy smelling everything. Sure, I take my quick "lock everyone in the bathroom with me and pray they don't kill each other" showers, but I try to limit those.

I'm a blogger, a small biz owner, I run a ministry, I am planning not one, but two conferences, I have a 1 year old, 2 year old and 3 year old. I also am super intentional about my time with my husband and my friends. To say I'm stretched thin would be an understatement, but I don't get overwhelmed by it because I find ways to make it work. And I give up some simple things to create more margin in my day. Showering is one of those things!

Trust me, when I start to smell, I will shower. Pinky promise.

a new season is coming

Last week I realized I was being a total debbie downer. After a few "are you doing ok" text messages and "I'm worried about you" conversations, I realized I was letting the dark side sink in. It had been a HARD few months. Literally on new years eve, a horrible round of sickness crept up on us. For nearly 3 months someone has been sick. We've had stomach flus, RSV, sinus infections and more. You name it, we've probably had it in the past 3 months. With the endless winter and endless sickness, I let it get to me. I had just weaned off of all of my anxiety/depression medication after battling postpartum anxiety & depression and I thought I was well on my way to being "normal" again. Whatever normal means?

It's so easy to get stuck in a rut in those seasons. I find myself climbing in bed at night and just wanting to cry because I have to "do it all over again tomorrow". I can't tell you how many times that thought crosses my mind. In this season of raising multiple little ones, it's all very redundant. It can become mundane. It's easy to let 1pm become the highlight of my day when I get to crash on the couch for an hour (if I'm lucky and everyone naps!).

I'm making the choice to look up. To place my hope in Christ on those days that get overwhelming and too much. To place our health in His hands and pray that spring comes soon. A literal and theoretical one. I need refreshment, newness and good old sunshine.

We got a glimpse of Spring yesterday and got to dip our toes in the water, and let our skin feel the sting of the sunshine. It was a beautiful and perfect reminder of His promises and that a new season is coming.

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So, tell me. How are YOU? How is your heart in the season of winter? Are you allowing yourself to sink in that pit of "I can't do it again tomorrow" or are you waking up refreshed and overjoyed that you get to experience a new day?

Spring is coming friends.

puke, disappointments & hard lessons learned

I spent 90% of last weekend puking into a little bucket next to my bed. We're all friends here and can talk about that kind of stuff, right? I thought so. I was out shopping Friday evening for last minute birthday party stuff and felt like I was going to puke all over aisle 4. Long story short, I was up all night with a nasty stomach bug and we had to cancel Makenzi's first birthday party. I was devastated having to cancel her party. Not just because I'm a party planner and a lot went into it, but because selfishly it was about me. Yeah, that's a hard one to admit. There's something about that first birthday that I take SO personally as if I did something great.

When I take a step back and do a heart check I realize:

How selfish are my feelings?

How pointless is my striving? 

Am I wanting to do this to honor her or make myself feel better and look better? 

What a tough heart check that is! That even when I can't show off my hard work and hear everyone talk about how great of a job I did, am I still doing it for the same reason? I realize how much I struggle with this in motherhood. How much of what I do is set up for my personal gain? How much of this is selfishly done for me? Am I striving for "greatness" instead of allowing Christ to reflect through me and love my children unconditionally?

It's a hard lesson to stomach (especially when you're getting over the stomach flu) that it's not about you. Christ made himself a slave, a lowly human to save and rescue us. Why should I ever think I'm entitled to so much as a mother?  As if I've done a great deed that deserves celebrating? (Read this great post from Thrive Moms MOMentum on this subject!)

phil27So, instead of a Pinterest award winning post to follow up from my birthday inspiration board, I leave you with puke and disappointment. A thrown together "make up party" so we could use the food we had ready for the big day. A few blurry pictures and a a sore throat from the pill I had to swallow learning it's really not about me and my big plans after all.

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However, this girl. This precious, amazing, hilarious girl. It's all about her and I'm thankful for the lessons I learn from getting to be her mama. I become a better person because of this amazing journey. It's a joy and an honor to be around her every single day.

I'd throw her a million parties if I could, because she really is my greatest littlest joy.

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Happy Birthday, Makenzi Hannah!