puke, disappointments & hard lessons learned

I spent 90% of last weekend puking into a little bucket next to my bed. We're all friends here and can talk about that kind of stuff, right? I thought so. I was out shopping Friday evening for last minute birthday party stuff and felt like I was going to puke all over aisle 4. Long story short, I was up all night with a nasty stomach bug and we had to cancel Makenzi's first birthday party. I was devastated having to cancel her party. Not just because I'm a party planner and a lot went into it, but because selfishly it was about me. Yeah, that's a hard one to admit. There's something about that first birthday that I take SO personally as if I did something great.

When I take a step back and do a heart check I realize:

How selfish are my feelings?

How pointless is my striving?Β 

Am I wanting to do this to honor her or make myself feel better and look better?Β 

What a tough heart check that is! That even when I can't show off my hard work and hear everyone talk about how great of a job I did, am I still doing it for the same reason? I realize how much I struggle with this in motherhood. How much of what I do is set up for my personal gain? How much of this is selfishly done for me? Am I striving for "greatness" instead of allowing Christ to reflect through me and love my children unconditionally?

It's a hard lesson to stomach (especially when you're getting over the stomach flu) that it's not about you. Christ made himself a slave, a lowly human to save and rescue us. Why should I ever think I'm entitled to so much as a mother? Β As if I've done a great deed that deserves celebrating? (Read this great post from Thrive Moms MOMentum on this subject!)

phil27So, instead of a Pinterest award winning post to follow up from my birthday inspiration board, I leave you with puke and disappointment. A thrown together "make up party" so we could use the food we had ready for the big day. A few blurry pictures and a a sore throat from the pill I had to swallow learning it's really not about me and my big plans after all.

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However, this girl. This precious, amazing, hilarious girl. It's all about her and I'm thankful for the lessons I learn from getting to be her mama. I become a better person because of this amazing journey. It's a joy and an honor to be around her every single day.

I'd throw her a million parties if I could, because she really is my greatest littlest joy.

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Happy Birthday, Makenzi Hannah!