the breastfeeding man

{Disclaimer...I vent here and may not be my happy, cheerful, typical self} Yesterday was one of those days where I had to hold back the mama bear claws. I had to take Munchkin in to the pediatrician to check her belly b/c of some "pooping issues". Our pediatrican has 5 partners, so you can see any of the doctors at any time, or can choose to see just one or two.  Well, I'm a pretty picky doctor person, so I picked one that I like and only see her.  Having to make a last minute appointment yesterday, they booked me with a random doctor.

Enter the breastfeeding natzi.

Ummmm, did I mention HE is a MAN?!?!


He comes in the room and the first thing he asks me is if I'm breastfeeding. "No, I'm not". His entire demeanor changes, looks at me with a very judgmental, you're a terrible parent look on his face and says "You know that's the best thing for your child, right?"

Holy mad mama batman. OF COURSE I KNOW THAT!! But since the 18 bagillion specialists I saw couldn't figure out what was wrong with me, and the pain didn't stop for 4 months, and I cried every time I fed/pumped, and the fact that I was LOSING MY MIND...that makes me a bad mother? I literally did everything in my power to try to make breastfeeding work for us. Even after finally stopping, it took me about 6 weeks to actually heal. I know the bewbies will never be the same, and I fear for my next child with a worry it's something wrong with me.

So, don't even TALK to me about what's best for my child.

The rest of the appointment just went downhill from there.  He continued to question my decisions as a mother, continuing to make me feel just fan-tastic. Needless to say, I will never be seeing that doctor again.

I may be opening a can of worms here, but I have to ask.  Why is it that breastfeeding mothers (or men?) are always so quick to judge women who struggled with it and ended up formula feeding? I'm not saying ALL do {so calm down and don't freak out}, but it always seems to be the ones who had no problems that judge us who did. I can't help but wonder if their minds would change if it didn't go so smoothly for them? I'm all about breastfeeding, and it literally broke my heart that I had to stop. But I am doing what is best for my baby. She will never go hungry. If that means she doesn't get my milk, so be it.

Ok go, your thoughts?

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