It's not about the wedding day....GASP!

WHAT?!?!?!?!  I know you're starting to think I fell and hit my head or something is seriously wrong with me.  I'm starting to think the same thing! But it's true... it's not about that.  It's about building a successful marriage.  A marriage to last a lifetime.  That doesn't happen in one day.  My darling, sweet, and stunningly handsome husband made a post on his blog yesterday that was oh-so-true.  

Now don't get me wrong, I still think weddings are the bomb diggity. They get me excited and make me want to burst randomly into song.  But I worry that too many times brides and grooms to be focus too much on their big day and not enough on what happens after that exciting send-off.  Only being a newlywed for 5 months, I've learned a lot but I sure have a lot more to learn! 

So my encouragement to brides....focus on what is to come.  You can still plan the party of the century (or leave that up to me :)) and plan for your future.  Learn your mate....really learn them. Learn how to LOVE them and the best ways to do it.  Ask the hard questions and don't be afraid to get out if you know it's not what God has for you.  I recently had a great friend end an engagement because she knew God had something better.  It was truly a life changing experience for me to watch her go through what she did, and I'm so excited to see what the future holds for her because it's not in her hands anymore.  It won't always be easy! But when you're with the person God MADE for you, there's nothing better in the world.  

Even when he leaves his dirty socks on the floor and doesn't understand your "cooking techniques". 

Ok...back to thinking weddings are everything.